Blunt answers, unpadded with courtesy, come accross as rude. That is a feature of English. See e.g. http://www.courts.state.hi.us/docs/CADR/CADR_LaBelle_MitigatedSpeech.pdf
It’s like failing to use the subjunctive in German.
The link led to a brief article from Hawaii’s alternative-dispute-resolution center discussing “mitigated,” “deferential,” or “indirect” speech:
…Tannen…argues that indirect speech does not necessarily reveal powerlessness, a lack of self-confidence, or anything else about the character of the speaker. She simply says that it is a natural and fundamental part of human communication. She notes that such speech varies by region, ethnicity, class, and gender, and can cause confusion and misunderstanding depending on the situation and the means of expression. For example, she points to the workplace as a place where we need to communicate with one another to get things done. And the way we choose to do this depends on who is being addressed—the boss, a peer, or a subordinate—and how we choose to communicate with each other—from commands to requests that don’t sound like requests but instead sound like an observation or a description of a situation. For example, she notes that issuing orders indirectly is typically the prerogative of those in power—the boss, the military officer, or the parent— because they can always use more direct ways or commands—“just do it!”—to accomplish the same end.
Scott Greenfield, in How High is Over the Top?, ties mitigated speech to recent conversations about professor Jessica Smith, attorney James Burdick, and marketeer David Faltz, each of whom demonstrated expectations that speech should be more deferential than its speakers thought appropriate in the circumstances.
While I am generally bluntly spoken, I recognize that there are times when mitigation is appropriate. For example, when I tell my younger child bluntly to do something, he tends to stop whatever he’s doing and argue. If I tell him more indirectly, I get faster compliance. So if I need to get him to do something quickly, I’m better off instructing him less directly.
Mitigation gets in the way of transmitting facts1 and drains the fire out of writing and speech, but it doesn’t necessarily impede communication. To the contrary, it may aid communication if the receiver of the message will be distracted by the lack of mitigation.
I see mitigation of speech as currency in a marketplace of needs: the more the sender of a message needs from the receiver and the less the receiver needs from the sender, the more the receiver can insist that the sender follow her standards of mitigation. If I need more from a reader than she needs from me, I will speak the way she wants to be spoken to, or I will not get what I need. If she needs more from me than I need from her, she will tolerate my bluntness, or she will not get what she needs.When I was writing this pleading one of my editors asked me whether instead of “this court should do X” I ought to write, “X should be done”—more indirect, deferential, mitigated speech.
When I write something for a court, I generally need more from the court than the court needs from me. While sometimes the court needs my instruction on the law, I almost always need the court to rule in my client’s favor.2 Because I need more from the court than the court needs from me, mitigated speech is called for. But at the same time I must be perfectly clear, because if the court misunderstands me the results will be catastrophic for my client.
I have abjured formalism in legal writing. I cut out the “to the honorable judge of said court” and the “wherefore, premises considered,” and all the meaningless mumbo-jumbo in between. That mumbo-jumbo, while meaningless, served a purpose: to signal deference; to mitigate speech. If you begin with “Comes now” and end with “respectfully submitted,” you have theoretically satisfied your readers’ desire for mitigation so that plain speech will not distract the court from understanding your argument.
If I were writing for the least common denominator I’d be more deferential, but even without the mumbo-jumbo, I write plainly in my pleadings because I assume that the judges to whom I’m writing are grownups who want to know what the facts are, what the law is, and how the law applies to the facts, without indirection or mitigation. And while they have been given no reason to expect it by the vast bulk of legal writing, judges want to be entertained. Writing should sizzle and hum, rumble and pop. Legal writing should surprise the reader, and anger her and amuse her and sadden her, and at the end it should satisfy her with the inescapable conclusion that the law and justice require her to do what the writer asks. Mitigated writing is insipid writing. It has no music because mitigation drains the words of spirit. If deferential writing arouses emotions, it is the deference that does so rather than the writing. While good writing makes people feel things about the subject, bad writing makes people feel things only about the writing.
In my Petition for Discretionary Review to the Texas Court of Criminal Appeals—among the most socially conservative appellate courts in the country—on the case that got the online-solicitation statute dumped, I wrote:
The U.S. Constitution allows an adult to talk dirty to a child as long as the dirty talk is not obscene as to the child (or otherwise unprotected speech, such as actual solicitation).Non-obscene, non-harmful-to-minors communications, no matter how tasteless we find them and no matter to whom they are made, are constitutionally protected.
Are there less confrontational ways to say the same thing? Certainly. Could I have found some more diplomatic way to frame it than “talking dirty”? You bet. Would it have been as effective? Doubtful. Did I catch the court’s attention? PDR granted. Did the court agree with me? Nine-zip. Did that make the Harris County District Attorney sad? Yep (PDF):
This Court erred in stating that the First Amendment necessarily protects speech that would be covered by Section 33.02l(b) if that speech was not already covered by another statute. See Ex Parte _ at * 4 (“In sum, everything that Section 33.02l(b) prohibits and punishes is speech and is either already prohibited by other statutes (such as obscenity, distributing harmful material to minors, solicitation of a minor, or child pornography) or is constitutionally protected.”).
Instead, this Court should have held, in accordance with the controlling case law regarding the First Amendment overbreadth doctrine, that Section 33.02l(b) criminalizes a substantial amount of protected speech. Ex Parte _ at * 3; see United States v. Williams, 553 U.S. 285 (2008) (a statute is facially overbroad if it prohibits a substantial amount of protected speech). This is an important distinction as sexting with children is not covered by another criminal statute, and this Court’s opinion will be construed to hold that it is now constitutionally protected speech. Is that what this Court intended?
And is there anything better than that? I don’t think so.
That’s why the passive voice is deprecated in formal writing. ↩
“Almost” because sometimes I hope to lose the fight, knowing that winning the fight will help my client less than losing it and having preserved error on appeal. For example, a jury instruction might be required by the law but only marginally helpful to my client; I might ask for it in a way that preserves error but is likely to be denied. ↩